Trapped in Victim Mode: How Schema Therapy Breaks the Self-Pity Cycle in Relationships

The Drama Triangle: Manhattan’s Longest-Running Show

Ever walked into a conversation expecting to resolve a minor issue—only to end up apologizing for things you didn’t even do?

One minute, you’re asking your partner why they forgot to confirm dinner reservations. The next? You’re starring in an off-Broadway drama titled “My Life of Constant Struggle: The Director’s Cut.” This emotional hijacking is victim mentality in relationships at its finest—a psychological pattern as predictable as tourists at Times Square.

The victim mentality isn’t just annoying—it’s relationship kryptonite. According to recent Gottman Institute research, couples with persistent patterns of playing the victim experience a 67% drop in intimacy satisfaction within two years. That’s a steeper decline than a Brooklyn Heights brownstone value during the 2008 crash.

Key Takeaways from This Article

✔ Why victim mentality destroys relationships – Learn how self-pity mode hijacks emotional intimacy and creates endless cycles of blame and helplessness.

✔ Schema Therapy’s unique approach – Understand the deep-seated childhood patterns that fuel victimhood and how schema therapy breaks the victim mentality in relationships.

✔ The hidden connection between self-pity and narcissism – Explore how “poor me” victim defenses overlap with narcissistic tendencies and what this means for your relationship.

✔ How to respond without enabling – Get expert strategies to set boundaries, escape emotional hostage situations, and stop feeling responsible for your partner’s suffering.

Keep reading to break free from the drama triangle and reclaim emotional balance in your relationship.

Schema therapy illuminates this drama triangle—the perpetual dance between victim, rescuer, and persecutor roles. Stephen Karpman mapped this theatrical framework decades ago, but it remains astonishingly relevant in our relationships today. We all occasionally step into these roles as we are dealing with the grand theater of life, but some people build entire identities around victimhood.

The self-pitying partner (or ex) stands out among these roles. Cloaked in ongoing emotional pain, they demand to know: “Why is the universe against me?” Behind this “Poor me” act lies a wall that keeps everyone out, trapping them in a prison of self-created suffering.

What’s truly frustrating? This pattern doesn’t just stall your relationship—it hijacks your own life. Constructive criticism becomes impossible. Simple requests transform into accusations. Basic accountability disappears faster than parking spots in SoHo.

Victim Mentality: The Emotional Hostage Situation

The victim mentality isn’t always loud complaints about perceived injustice. Sometimes it’s quiet helplessness that somehow always requires your intervention. The victim mindset comes in several bespoke New York editions:

The Wall Street Special: Masterfully manages eight-figure portfolios but becomes mysteriously helpless when facing household decisions. Their professional competence never seems to transfer to personal responsibility.

The Brooklyn Heights Martyr: Transforms missing a SoulCycle class into an epic tale of cosmic persecution that would qualify for gallery space in DUMBO. Their past traumas become their entire identity.

The Upper East Side Sufferer: Showcases wounds with the meticulous curation of a Gagosian opening night. Their negative thinking transforms minor setbacks into catastrophes.

The Park Slope Persecuted: Turns co-op board meetings into evidence that authority figures are personally targeting them. Their victim role never wavers regardless of circumstance.

For those with strong self-sacrifice tendencies—you know who you are, the ones putting everyone’s Seamless order ahead of your own—this creates the perfect storm. Your guilt becomes their rocket fuel, propelling their victim behavior to new heights.

The victim syndrome operates like an emotional loop that stops all progress. When your partner engages in self-pity, they’re not consciously scheming. Most people trapped in perpetual victimhood genuinely believe their distorted perceptions. Their learned helplessness feels completely justified.

Recognizing the Victim’s Fingerprints: Beyond Obvious Complaints

In schema therapy language, victim mentality isn’t just annoying—it’s a surrender coping response wrapped in a Bergdorf’s bag of righteous indignation. The world becomes the persecutor, you become the reluctant rescuer, and they stake permanent claim to victim status.

This victim mindset manifests through predictable patterns:

• Reality revision: “I always handle everything around here” (while their Lululemon workout clothes fossilize on the bathroom’s heated floor)
• Emotional hostaging: “I guess I’m just terrible at everything then” (when asked why they missed their partner’s job promotion celebration)
• Historical rewriting: “You never supported my documentary film career” (while living in your Tribeca loft during their three “visionary years”)
• Competence contradiction: Capable of structuring complex hedge fund algorithms but mysteriously unable to schedule a dinner with your in-laws
• Responsibility allergies: Migraines that appear precisely when it’s time to take responsibility for shared commitments
• Martyrdom mathematics: Calculating relationship contributions using an algorithm that always shows them giving 90% (despite your name alone on the mortgage)

The neurological reality? Victim mode hijacks the prefrontal cortex—the brain’s rational executive—while activating the amygdala’s threat response. Your partner isn’t being deliberately manipulative; their brain has literally gone offline faster than Wi-Fi in a Midtown Starbucks. Their sense of personal power evaporates, replaced by feeling powerless.

This differs crucially from healthy vulnerability. True vulnerability says, “I’m hurt and need connection.” Victim mentality declares, “I’m hurt because of you/them/the world, and fixing it is someone else’s responsibility.” One builds bridges toward a healthy relationship; the other erects walls while complaining about isolation.

When Personality Traits Become Personality Disorders

Not all victim thinking reaches clinical levels, but when victim mentality becomes a fixed personality trait, it can overlap with personality disorders including borderline personality disorder patterns. The “poor me” narcissistic defense, characterized by martyrdom and feeling powerless, reflects how victim behavior serves as both protection and manipulation in victim mentality in relationships.

Those with traumatic childhood experiences often develop these patterns as coping mechanisms. What protected them then imprisons them now—like a rent-controlled apartment they can’t bear to leave despite the six-floor walkup. Their sense of self becomes defined by their suffering.

People with persistent victim mentality tend to externalize their problems in the same way across different situations. They feel helpless about their circumstances, yet resist suggestions for change. This creates a frustrating paradox for those in their lives:

• They seek sympathy without accepting solutions
• They blame others while avoiding self-reflection
• They interpret neutral comments as attacks
• They feel upset about their situation but resist changing it

The victim doesn’t want to be wrong. They’d rather be right about how unfair the world is than take responsibility for their own issues. This makes dealing with them particularly exhausting.

The Schema Foundations: What Drives Persistent Victim Patterns

These victim behaviors emerge from early maladaptive schemas—those deeply embedded belief systems formed in childhood. The usual suspects include:

Abandonment Schema: The Constant Fear of Being Left

That anxiety spike when your partner doesn’t text back immediately during their board meeting? It’s not control—it’s their abandonment alarm blaring at full volume. Past experiences taught them that people always leave, making current relationships minefields of perceived rejection. A victim mentality can develop.

Defectiveness Schema: The Core Belief of Being Flawed

Why criticism that would roll off their back at Goldman Sachs triggers a meltdown at home? At the office, their performance is evaluated. At home, they fear their worth as a human is on trial. They feel vulnerable in ways that trigger profound self-blame that can lead to their own suffering.

Emotional Deprivation: The Bottomless Need

Nothing you give ever seems enough—not the Cartier love bracelet, not the surprise weekend in Paris? They’re trying to fill a bottomless emotional well with surface-level validation. Their victim mentality feels justified because their emotional needs seem perpetually unmet.

Entitlement Schema: Special Rules Apply

Often coupled with emotional deprivation, creating the relationship equivalent of demanding Central Park views while refusing to pay maintenance fees. Their ongoing emotional pain justifies special treatment.

These schemas aren’t random. They’re forged in childhood environments where emotional needs went unmet. Examples include:

• The successful hedge fund manager whose parents praised SAT scores but ignored feelings.
• The brilliant creative director whose nanny was more consistently available than either parent.
• The powerhouse attorney who learned early that vulnerability meant being passed over for sleepaway camp.

Someone with borderline personality disorder might fluctuate between extreme victim states and angry persecution, while narcissistic traits might present as “poor me” victimhood that simultaneously demands special treatment without personal responsibility. Neither responds well to conventional therapy approaches. The coping mechanism continues.

The Professional Paradox: Corner Office Titan, Bedroom Victim

Here’s where it gets fascinating: The same person with a mindset who dominates their industry may crumble into victim mode in personal relationships. Different contexts activate different schemas. The boardroom doesn’t threaten their core emotional wounds; the bedroom might. Professional criticism doesn’t activate defectiveness the way a lover’s disappointment does.

“I was baffled by how my husband—a major publishing executive who regularly made million-dollar decisions—could become completely paralyzed when facing minor household responsibilities,” shares Rachel, a recent client. “Through schema therapy, we discovered how his childhood experiences created a specific victim mindset in intimate relationships despite his professional confidence.”

The financial implications extend beyond emotional costs. Persistent victim mentality doesn’t just threaten your emotional health—it threatens your joint assets, productivity, and economic stability. When you spend time managing your partner’s emotional fragility, you’re not fully present for career opportunities that require your focus.

Traditional couples therapy often fails because it addresses surface conflicts without excavating these underlying schemas. Like replacing the Viking range while ignoring foundation cracks, it creates temporary aesthetic improvements while structural problems worsen.

The Blame Game: How Victim Mentality Corrupts Communication

Every conversation becomes a minefield when one partner routinely plays the victim. Normal requests transform into accusations; reasonable expectations become evidence of persecution. The victim feels attacked when asked to handle what others would consider basic adult responsibilities.

Common communication patterns include:

1. Deflection: “Why are you focusing on this when you did something worse last year?”
2. Catastrophizing: “You’re never satisfied with anything I do!”
3. Selective memory: Forgetting their contributions to problems while meticulously cataloging yours
4. False equivalence: Equating minor oversights with major breaches of trust
5. Instant victimhood: Transforming any request into evidence of being misunderstood

This communication style makes problem-solving nearly impossible. Every issue in the victim complex becomes about the victim’s hurt feelings rather than addressing the original concern. Their negative self-talk amplifies every perceived slight, creating a self-fulfilling prophecy of rejection.

Not everyone who occasionally feels victimized has a victim mentality. The difference lies in persistence and pervasiveness. Someone might temporarily feel victimized by specific circumstances without making it their entire identity.

Strategic Responses: Breaking the Cycle Without Breaking the Relationship

When your partner slides into their “why does everything happen to me” Broadway revival (now playing longer than Phantom), these interventions can interrupt the victim loop:

Dialogue Upgrades for the Emotionally Sophisticated

Instead of: “You always do this! You’re not the only one with problems.”

Try: “I notice we’ve moved from discussing dinner plans to your feeling generally unsupported. Can we pause and identify what specifically triggered that shift?”

Instead of: “Stop playing the victim.”

Try: “I’m finding it hard to problem-solve when it feels like we’re assigning blame rather than finding solutions.”

Instead of: “Fine, it’s all my fault then.”

Try: “I don’t think either of us is completely responsible. What if we approached this as a shared challenge, like we did with the co-op board application?”

These responses validate feelings without validating distortions. They offer support without reinforcing the victim narrative. Most importantly, they model healthy emotional regulation.

The 60-Second Emotional Reset (Perfect for Between Zoom Calls)

When you feel yourself getting pulled into the drama triangle, try this great tip:

1. Name it silently: “This is victim mentality activating”
2. Take one deep breath (not the performative kind your yoga instructor does)
3. Ask yourself: “What’s my goal in this conversation?”
4. Choose a response that serves that goal, not the drama

“One client described this technique as ’emotional judo’—using the momentum of the pattern to redirect toward healthier interaction,” shares Travis Atkinson, the founder and director of Loving at Your Best. “Within weeks, conversations with her wife that had previously escalated into weekend-long pity parties were resolving in minutes.”

For the Empaths: Escaping the Guilt Trap

If you tend to feel guilty whenever someone expresses pain—even when it’s not your fault—this dynamic is especially dangerous.

When your partner spirals into self-pity:

• You feel compelled to fix their feelings
• You soften reality: “I shouldn’t overwhelm them with the truth”
• You take on their responsibilities: “It’s easier if I just do it myself”
• You suppress your needs: “My concerns can wait”

But here’s what happens:

• You shield them from consequences → they never build resilience
• You relieve their discomfort → they never develop problem-solving skills
• You manage their emotions → they remain emotionally dependent

The harsh truth? There is no version of reality—not even in the Hamptons—where they grow without experiencing discomfort. They must take responsibility for their part. Their victim acts have consequences. They must deal with natural consequences. They must learn to navigate life without constant rescue.

The longer you shield them from reality, the more entrenched their victim status becomes.

Victim Mentality in Co-Parenting: When Your Ex Plays the Victim

Co-parenting with someone entrenched in victim mentality creates unique challenges. Every parenting decision can become evidence of your malicious intent. Every boundary can become persecution. Every schedule adjustment can become catastrophic. The same things come up repeatedly.

Strategic approaches can include:

• Document everything without commentary
• Respond to emotional content only when legally necessary
• Establish communication protocols that minimize triggers
• Create predictable patterns that reduce anxiety
• Differentiate between actual emergencies and manufactured crises
• Use third-party intermediaries when direct communication repeatedly deteriorates

This isn’t just about minimizing drama—it’s about creating stability for children caught in the emotional crossfire. Children need consistency, especially when one parent’s victim mindset creates turbulence.

Professional help becomes essential when co-parenting with a high-conflict ex. Professional support provides both strategies and validation that you’re not wrong for setting necessary boundaries.

The Workplace Victim: When Professional Relationships Suffer

Victim mentality doesn’t confine itself to romantic relationships. Other relationships are impacted as well through personal experiences. Colleagues who consistently play the victim in life create toxic work environments. Every assignment becomes impossible, every deadline unreasonable, every evaluation unfair.

Signs include:

• Chronic complaints without solution proposals
• Taking feedback as personal attacks
• Claiming systemic bias when facing natural consequences
• Creating coalition-building against authority figures
• Making their struggles everyone’s problem

Dealing with workplace victims requires clear boundaries and documentation. Don’t get pulled into their narrative. Maintain professional support while refusing to enable unproductive patterns that enable their secondary benefits.

Keep in mind: their narrative isn’t about you—it’s about their internal schemas colliding with external reality. Your job isn’t to fix their perception. Your responsibility is managing your response to their victim behavior.

Elite Schema Therapy: Sophisticated Intervention for High-Performing Relationships

At Loving At Your Best, we specialize in helping Manhattan and Brooklyn’s most successful couples break free from these entrenched patterns in life. Schema therapy targets the underlying emotional patterns that keep even the most accomplished relationships stuck in victim-rescuer cycles.

Unlike traditional couples therapy that focuses on communication skills (as if your MBA didn’t cover that), schema therapy addresses the root causes of victim mentality. We go beyond how you feel. Our approach helps couples:

• Identify schemas driving victim patterns
• Understand how these patterns developed and why they persist
• Develop strategies to interrupt the cycle without enabling or attacking
• Build relationship dynamics that support personal growth rather than stagnation
• Protect both emotional well-being and financial assets through improved functioning

“I was constantly walking on eggshells around my husband’s emotional fragility,” shares Elena, a prominent gallery owner. “Meanwhile, I was closing seven-figure deals without breaking a sweat. Through schema therapy, I learned to set boundaries without feeling guilty. Six months later, our relationship has transformed. We still have disagreements, but they no longer derail our lives.”

Schema therapy provides narrative therapy elements that help rewrite destructive stories in life while addressing the secondary gain that victim mentality provides. By identifying the hidden benefits of victim behavior, we help clients find healthier ways to meet those needs.

Self-Care for Those Dealing with Victim Mentality

Living with someone entrenched in victim mindset takes a toll on your emotional resources. Prioritizing self-care isn’t selfish—it’s necessary survival.

Essential practices include:

• Maintaining social connections independent of your relationship
• Setting clear emotional boundaries around what problems you’ll engage with
• Practicing your own emotional regulation techniques in your life
• Working with a therapist to strengthen your own psychological resilience
• Recognizing when the relationship dynamics affect your self-esteem

You deserve emotional oxygen too. You can’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm—especially when they keep complaining about being cold.

Breaking Free: Possibilities Beyond Victimhood

When relationships escape the victim-rescuer-persecutor triangle, the energy previously devoted to maintaining roles becomes available for genuine connection and shared success.

Couples who successfully navigate schema healing consistently report:

“I discovered personal power in my life that I never knew I had once I stopped outsourcing emotional responsibility.”

“Our arguments became productive once they stopped being about past traumas and started being about solutions.”

“The moment I stopped trying to fix the person and their pain, I found space for my own personal growth.”

“We now spend time planning adventures instead of rehashing grievances.”

Real transformation takes time—typically 6-12 months of focused work in specialized couples therapy at Loving at Your Best Marriage and Couples Counseling. But even modest reductions in victim mentality for one person correlates with significant improvements in both relationship satisfaction and individual functioning. Think of it as the ultimate investment strategy: emotional growth with practical dividends.

Recognizing Progress: Small Wins in Overcoming Victim Mentality

How do you know if the work is helping? Watch for these subtle shifts:

• Decreased duration of victim episodes
• Faster recovery time after triggers
• Brief moments of curiosity replacing defensive certainty
• Small acknowledgments of shared responsibility
• Reduced use of absolute language (“always,” “never”)
• Willingness to consider alternative perspectives
• Decreased emotional reactivity to previously volcanic triggers

Progress isn’t linear. There will be setbacks. But you’re not on the wrong track. The key in your mindset is noticing the overall trajectory. Is your partner taking responsibility more often? Are they spending less time in victim mode? Can they occasionally laugh at their own patterns?

These incremental shifts might seem small, but they represent significant neural rewiring. Each time your partner chooses responsibility over victimhood, they’re creating a new sense of the world and new pathways in their brain.

The Manhattan Method: Schema Therapy for Elite Relationships

For discerning couples serious about transformation, we offer The Manhattan Method—a comprehensive assessment and personalized therapy plan designed specifically for high-achieving partners.

This exclusive package includes:

• In-depth schema assessment for both partners
• Customized intervention strategy
• Priority scheduling at our Park Avenue or Brooklyn Heights locations
• Discreet, flexible appointment options to accommodate demanding careers
• Optional intensive weekend sessions for accelerated progress

Space is limited to ensure our signature personalized attention for each couple.

Breaking the Cycle: Your Next Steps

Most high-achieving couples wait too long to address victim patterns—don’t let that be you. Our elite-level schema therapy is designed for professionals who want real, lasting change. Due to high demand, spaces are limited.

At Loving At Your Best Marriage and Couples Counseling, our team of schema therapy specialists helps Manhattan and Brooklyn’s power couples break free from self-defeating patterns and build the relationships their achievements deserve.

Our approach is direct, sophisticated, and results-oriented—designed specifically for ambitious professionals who value both emotional growth and tangible returns on their investment.

The Drama Triangle mapped by Karpman reveals how victim, persecutor, and rescuer roles keep relationships trapped in unproductive cycles. Schema therapy illuminates the underlying patterns driving these roles and offers concrete strategies for breaking free.

Remember: Behind every victim stands a child who once needed protection. Behind every rescuer hides someone who needs to matter. Behind every persecutor lurks someone terrified of being vulnerable. By understanding these dynamics, we can transform the drama triangle into authentic connection.

Call (212) 725-7774 or visit lovingatyourbest.com now to book a confidential consultation. Mention this article for priority scheduling.

You’ve built a life of success and ambition—your relationship should reflect the same standard.

Frequently Asked Questions: Breaking Free from Victim Mentality in Relationships

1. What is Self-Pity/Victim (SPV) Mode, and how does it relate to victim mentality in relationships?

Self-Pity/Victim (SPV) Mode is a maladaptive coping mode in schema therapy where a person externalizes blame, fixates on their own suffering, and resists personal responsibility. This behavior aligns with victim mentality in relationships, where one partner consistently sees themselves as powerless and unfairly treated.

Instead of processing emotions in a healthy way, they rely on seeking sympathy, avoiding solutions, and reinforcing patterns of helplessness. Schema therapy helps break these cycles by identifying early maladaptive schemas that keep someone trapped in SPV Mode and shifting them toward a Healthy Adult Mode, where they take responsibility and engage in problem-solving.

2. How do I know if my partner is stuck in a victim mentality?

People with a victim mentality tend to display specific patterns, including:

• Blame-shifting – Problems are always caused by others, never them.

• Avoiding personal responsibility – They see themselves as powerless to change their circumstances.

• Exaggerating struggles – Every difficulty becomes overwhelming, yet they reject solutions.

• Rewriting the past – They focus on grievances and past traumas while ignoring present realities.

• Chronic emotional distress – They struggle with ongoing emotional pain that never seems to improve.

If your conversations with your partner feel like an emotional trap, where you’re either the rescuer or the villain, they may be entrenched in SPV Mode.

3. Is victim mentality connected to borderline personality disorder?

There is some overlap between victim mentality and traits associated with borderline personality disorder (BPD). Individuals with BPD may experience extreme emotional reactions, unstable self-identity, and intense fears of abandonment, all of which can contribute to victim mindset behaviors.

However, not everyone in SPV Mode has a personality disorder. Some people develop a victim mindset due to past experiences, learned helplessness, or deeply ingrained belief systems rather than a clinical diagnosis. Schema therapy helps differentiate between temporary emotional struggles and longstanding maladaptive coping mechanisms, offering tailored strategies for change.

4. Why does my partner act helpless in our relationship but function fine at work?

Many individuals who struggle with victim mentality in relationships appear highly competent in professional settings but emotionally fragile at home. This happens because different environments activate different schemas.

At work, they may overcompensate by relying on perfectionism or people-pleasing strategies. But in close relationships, unresolved abandonment, defectiveness, or emotional deprivation schemas emerge, triggering SPV Mode instead of personal responsibility.

This can create emotional whiplash—where the same person who thrives in high-pressure business negotiations crumbles under minor relationship conflicts. Schema therapy helps bridge this gap, allowing emotional resilience to extend beyond the workplace.

5. Can victim mentality in relationships be changed, or is it a permanent personality trait?

Victim mentality tend to feel deeply ingrained, but it is not a fixed personality trait. It’s a maladaptive coping mechanism developed in response to early life experiences, often reinforced by negative thinking and external validation.

With the right interventions, such as schema therapy, individuals can learn to:

• Recognize self-pity and blame cycles before they take over.

• Develop healthy coping strategies that replace victimhood with personal empowerment.

• Take responsibility for their emotions and choices without guilt or defensiveness.

• Build emotional resilience rather than relying on others for constant validation.

Change is possible, but it requires self-awareness, willingness, and structured intervention.

6. How do I set boundaries with someone who has a victim mindset?

If your partner operates from a victim mindset, setting boundaries is crucial to protect your emotional well-being.

1. Recognize the cycle – Understand that their negative self-talk and emotional reactions aren’t about you.

2. Avoid engaging in blame games – Refuse to get caught in circular arguments.

3. Use clear and structured responses – Acknowledge their emotions but redirect toward solutions.

4. Stop rescuing – Let them experience the natural consequences of their choices.

5. Prioritize your own self-care – Protect your emotional energy by disengaging when necessary.

Example Response:

• Instead of saying, “You always act like a victim and never take responsibility.”

• Try, “I see that this is upsetting for you. What would help you feel more in control of the situation?”

This approach acknowledges their emotions without enabling their victim mindset.

7. What should I do if I feel emotionally drained by my partner’s victim mentality?

Feeling exhausted by a partner’s victim mentality is common, especially if you have a Self-Sacrifice Schema and tend to prioritize others’ needs over your own.

If your partner constantly pulls you into emotional hostage situations, consider:

• Detaching from their emotional spirals – You are not responsible for fixing their feelings.

• Focusing on self-care – Your needs matter just as much as theirs.

• Seeking professional support – Therapy can help you navigate boundaries and emotional exhaustion.

• Refusing to enable learned helplessness – Encourage action instead of reinforcing passive suffering.

Your well-being matters, and staying in a draining dynamic won’t serve either of you long-term.

8. When should I consider couples therapy for victim mentality in relationships?

If your relationship is stuck in a loop of blame, frustration, and emotional exhaustion, it’s time to seek professional help.

Signs you need schema therapy:

• Repeated conflicts with no resolution.

• Emotional exhaustion from managing your partner’s self-pity.

• Walking on eggshells to avoid triggering their victim mode.

• Struggling with resentment, guilt, or frustration in the relationship.

Schema therapy in New York helps both partners break free from destructive patterns, develop emotional resilience, and rebuild trust.

9. What if my partner refuses therapy? Can schema therapy still help me?

Absolutely. Even if your partner refuses therapy, your own growth can shift the entire relationship dynamic.

• If you have a Self-Sacrifice Schema, therapy can help you set healthy boundaries.

• If you struggle with walking on eggshells, therapy can teach you detachment strategies.

• If you feel trapped in blame cycles, therapy will show you how to disengage productively.

• If you experience emotional burnout, therapy can help you regain clarity and self-worth.

Change doesn’t require both partners to participate. When you shift your responses, the relationship must adapt.

10. How do I take the next step to break free from victim mentality in relationships?

If you’re ready to stop the cycle—whether it’s your own victim mindset, your partner’s, or both—schema therapy offers a direct and effective approach.

At Loving at Your Best, we specialize in high-level schema therapy for couples and individuals who want real change.

📞 Call (212) 725-7774 or visit lovingatyourbest.com to book a confidential consultation.

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