Seeing danger signs in your marriage
When a couple is stuck in a negative pattern, even the slightest action can turn into an explosive eruption. For most couples who come for marriage therapy, they realize that they are not able to get out of it on their own. This acceptance is a first step to identify the problem behind the pattern, and then develop a plan for change that involves creating a new way to connect with each other.
Read about the ingredients of a conflict are mostly similar with most couples in a negative pattern. In most cases, one partner criticizes or blames, and another defends or withdraws. For some couples both partners go into an attack mode, with one or both eventually retreating. In the worst cases, both partners stop attacking, but in a withdrawal state, the relationship is on life support.
Still Hung Up On That? Why Our Mind Has a Hard Time Forgetting
New York couples have been faced with extreme tests when emotional injuries may have occurred, including 9/11 and Hurricane Sandy Have you felt an intense amount of pain from an event in your marriage or love relationship? An experience when one partner or spouse fails to respond at times of urgent need strongly influences the […]
Is a Ghost from the Past Haunting Your Marriage or Love Relationship?
Ghosts from the past can be unwelcome intruders in your marriage or love relationship Are you or your partner or spouse experiencing symptoms in your marriage or love relationship that could be related to a history of trauma? A common dialogue between a couple where one partner has a history of trauma might go like […]
Effective Conflict is the Booby Prize in a Marriage or Love Relationship
How do you fight in your marriage or love relationship? Fighting better is only the booby prize, from my experience with couples. As good as it feels to be able to engage in conflict effectively, it’s not the grand prize for a marriage or love relationship. Join me for the next Marriage and Couples in […]
