Seeing danger signs in your marriage
When a couple is stuck in a negative pattern, even the slightest action can turn into an explosive eruption. For most couples who come for marriage therapy, they realize that they are not able to get out of it on their own. This acceptance is a first step to identify the problem behind the pattern, and then develop a plan for change that involves creating a new way to connect with each other.
Read about the ingredients of a conflict are mostly similar with most couples in a negative pattern. In most cases, one partner criticizes or blames, and another defends or withdraws. For some couples both partners go into an attack mode, with one or both eventually retreating. In the worst cases, both partners stop attacking, but in a withdrawal state, the relationship is on life support.
Still Hung Up On That? Why Our Mind Has a Hard Time Forgetting
New York couples have been faced with extreme tests when emotional injuries may have occurred, including 9/11 and Hurricane Sandy Have you felt an intense amount of pain from an event in your marriage or love relationship? An experience when one partner or spouse fails to respond at times of urgent need strongly influences the […]
Is a Ghost from the Past Haunting Your Marriage or Love Relationship?
Ghosts from the past can be unwelcome intruders in your marriage or love relationship Are you or your partner or spouse experiencing symptoms in your marriage or love relationship that could be related to a history of trauma? A common dialogue between a couple where one partner has a history of trauma might go like […]
Are You in Danger of a Relationship Breaker?
Headed for Disaster? In your marriage or relationship, are you and your spouse or partner headed for separation or divorce? You may find it hopeful to know that thousands of couples have been studied over 30 years to help us predict with up to 94% accuracy if a marriage or relationship is headed for disaster. In this […]