3 Ways to Be a Master in Your Marriage or Relationship

Couples Counseling NYC,John Gottman

3 Ways to Be a Master in Your Marriage or Relationship

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Are You a Master in Your Marriage or Relationship?

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Is it easy for you and your spouse or partner to talk to each other, even about what may seem like simple things? If it is, chances are, your marriage or relationship is in a good place, and your connection is strong. If this is not the case, these little moments of silence, like a couple sitting together at a restaurant and starring at their food, may be signs of some stress or tension in your marriage or relationship. If these signs aren’t addressed, the result may grow into a snowball effect that ends up tearing many couples apart.

Every day, you and your partner or spouse make efforts to connect with each other, what John Gottman, the creator of Gottman Method Couples Therapy and the author of the newly released “What Makes Love Last” describes as “bids” for connection. Gottman and his colleagues viewed thousands of couples to see what the masters of relationships, couples who stay together and genuinely love being together, were doing to maintain the strength of their relationships. He also recognized the patterns of couples who ended up in disaster, breaking up or staying together miserably.

How Can You Help Save Your Relationship?

If you and your spouse or partner are aware of these “bids” for connection, and purposefully respond in a way that both recognizes and accepts each others’ efforts, you’ll likely thrive in your relationship together. Three steps we address in the Loving at Your Best Plan of marriage and couples counseling and therapy in NYC are:

  1. Be aware of making “bids” yourself, and when your partner or spouse is doing the same

  2. Recognize what you need, and invite your partner or spouse to tell you what he or she needs

  3. After you share what you really want with each other, commit to making these dreams realities

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    Travis Atkinson, founder of Loving at Your Best Marriage and Couples Counseling, brings three decades of expertise to relationship healing. Mentored by pioneers in schema and emotionally focused therapies, he's revolutionized couples counseling with innovative approaches. Travis's multicultural background informs his unique view of each relationship as its own culture. He combines world-class expertise with genuine compassion to guide couples towards deeper connection.

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